i just dumped my g/f of almost 5 months because of some stuff that happened last night. i'll give you the whole story:
currently she is in texas visiting family. every night i call her before i go to bed, because i go to bed before her. thursday night i call her, we had been talking about 15 minutes, and we usually talk for 20-30 minutes every night. well one of her guy friends calls. but it wasn't one of her regular guy friends, this guy was totally obsessed with her and even though she's told him that she doesn't have any feelings for him, and never will, he asked her to marry him about 7 months ago. that was in the past, for the most part, but even at the beginning of our relationship he'd call all the time. she always told me he was just a friend. well before she leaves for texas she tells me that he's going to take her on a hot air balloon ride, and she was so excited since she's always wanted to go on one. something didn't seam right to me, cause how many normal guys pay almost $400 for him and just a friend to go on a hot air balloon ride. so i start asking questions. that's when i find out all the other stuff about him, and his obsession with her. to make matters worse she tells me that he said he's got a suprise for her at the end of the hot air balloon ride. i tell her not to go, and that he doesn't just want to be friends with her. she didn't really believe me at first, so i asked her sister about the situation, and she got mad at my g/f. we both agreed that she was kind of leading him on, ESPECIALLY since she hadn't told him about me. so i made her tell him about me, and was seriously pissed she hadn't, cause if she only viewed him as a friend then what would be the big deal about telling him about me? well he got pissed, hung up the phone on her, and didn't call her for over a month. anyways, so a month goes by and he starts calling again, and swears to her that he doesn't want to be more than friends with her. i'm not one to tell someone who they can and can't be friends with, so i told her it's up to her, but i wasn't going to be very happy about it. so back to the start of this story, i'm talking to my g/f the other night and he calls in. she puts me on hold and talks to him for almost 3 minutes. IMHO you shouldn't put someone on hold for over a minute, because it's just rude. so she gets back on the line and said nothing about taking so long. so i asked who she was talking to, and she said him. i asked her what took so long, and she said he was asking how she was doing and all that. so i got pissed. would it have been so hard to just say "hey, i'm on the other line, can i call you back?" to him? i'm already tired and cranky, and she pulls that ****. whatever, we work it out. the very next night, last night, i call her about 10, cause i'm getting ready for bed. no answer. she calls back about a minute later and says she didn't pick up cause she's getting ready to go out. i ask with who, and she says him, but not to get mad cause they are just going to a movie. yeah i was pissed, but i was trying to stay calm. after talking for like 2 minutes she gets in his car and wants to keep talking. so rather than have our normal evening conversation she would rather go out with him. so yeah, i'm getting even more pissed. but i tell her to call me later, and let me know she got home ok. well i was up most of the night cause i couldn't sleep, and at about 1 AM their time she gets on yahoo messenger and leaves me a message saying that she misses me and she loves me. i get it at about 1:30 their time, and write back. she's not there, but her brother tells me she went out to denny's with him. so i call her cell. her brother answers and tells me that she left her cell at home and that she said she'd be back around 2 AM. so i say **** it and go to bed. i wake up this morning and there is a missed call around 3:30 AM her time. so i call and wake her up to find out what the hell happened last night. she gives me all these excuses about nothing happened, they are just friends, and everything else. well i'm not worried about her cheating on me, i am worried about him, and the fact that she really believes that he just wants to be friends. IMHO if she cared about how i felt, and actually thought about it, she would have never gone out with him. but she did. so after about an hour of us talking/arguing, she tells me that he got her a birthday present, to show they were just friends. guess what it was, a ****ing tiffany's necklace with hearts on it. gee, that does a great job of showing they are just friends. so i get even more pissed about that. i asked why she even went out with him last night, and she said she didn't want to go out at first, but he said he had something to give her. if she knew that, why the hell didn't she tell me the night before?! so yeah, after all that i dumped her. but now i have a few questions:
1) should i have been mad about being put on hold for almost 3 minutes?
2) should i have been ok with her going to the movie?
3) should i have not been mad at her leaving her cell phone, which i've never known her to leave her house without?
4) should i be mad that she accepted the necklace?
5) am i wrong for believing he still wants to be more than friends?
6) should i be mad that she can't see why i'm mad?
currently she is in texas visiting family. every night i call her before i go to bed, because i go to bed before her. thursday night i call her, we had been talking about 15 minutes, and we usually talk for 20-30 minutes every night. well one of her guy friends calls. but it wasn't one of her regular guy friends, this guy was totally obsessed with her and even though she's told him that she doesn't have any feelings for him, and never will, he asked her to marry him about 7 months ago. that was in the past, for the most part, but even at the beginning of our relationship he'd call all the time. she always told me he was just a friend. well before she leaves for texas she tells me that he's going to take her on a hot air balloon ride, and she was so excited since she's always wanted to go on one. something didn't seam right to me, cause how many normal guys pay almost $400 for him and just a friend to go on a hot air balloon ride. so i start asking questions. that's when i find out all the other stuff about him, and his obsession with her. to make matters worse she tells me that he said he's got a suprise for her at the end of the hot air balloon ride. i tell her not to go, and that he doesn't just want to be friends with her. she didn't really believe me at first, so i asked her sister about the situation, and she got mad at my g/f. we both agreed that she was kind of leading him on, ESPECIALLY since she hadn't told him about me. so i made her tell him about me, and was seriously pissed she hadn't, cause if she only viewed him as a friend then what would be the big deal about telling him about me? well he got pissed, hung up the phone on her, and didn't call her for over a month. anyways, so a month goes by and he starts calling again, and swears to her that he doesn't want to be more than friends with her. i'm not one to tell someone who they can and can't be friends with, so i told her it's up to her, but i wasn't going to be very happy about it. so back to the start of this story, i'm talking to my g/f the other night and he calls in. she puts me on hold and talks to him for almost 3 minutes. IMHO you shouldn't put someone on hold for over a minute, because it's just rude. so she gets back on the line and said nothing about taking so long. so i asked who she was talking to, and she said him. i asked her what took so long, and she said he was asking how she was doing and all that. so i got pissed. would it have been so hard to just say "hey, i'm on the other line, can i call you back?" to him? i'm already tired and cranky, and she pulls that ****. whatever, we work it out. the very next night, last night, i call her about 10, cause i'm getting ready for bed. no answer. she calls back about a minute later and says she didn't pick up cause she's getting ready to go out. i ask with who, and she says him, but not to get mad cause they are just going to a movie. yeah i was pissed, but i was trying to stay calm. after talking for like 2 minutes she gets in his car and wants to keep talking. so rather than have our normal evening conversation she would rather go out with him. so yeah, i'm getting even more pissed. but i tell her to call me later, and let me know she got home ok. well i was up most of the night cause i couldn't sleep, and at about 1 AM their time she gets on yahoo messenger and leaves me a message saying that she misses me and she loves me. i get it at about 1:30 their time, and write back. she's not there, but her brother tells me she went out to denny's with him. so i call her cell. her brother answers and tells me that she left her cell at home and that she said she'd be back around 2 AM. so i say **** it and go to bed. i wake up this morning and there is a missed call around 3:30 AM her time. so i call and wake her up to find out what the hell happened last night. she gives me all these excuses about nothing happened, they are just friends, and everything else. well i'm not worried about her cheating on me, i am worried about him, and the fact that she really believes that he just wants to be friends. IMHO if she cared about how i felt, and actually thought about it, she would have never gone out with him. but she did. so after about an hour of us talking/arguing, she tells me that he got her a birthday present, to show they were just friends. guess what it was, a ****ing tiffany's necklace with hearts on it. gee, that does a great job of showing they are just friends. so i get even more pissed about that. i asked why she even went out with him last night, and she said she didn't want to go out at first, but he said he had something to give her. if she knew that, why the hell didn't she tell me the night before?! so yeah, after all that i dumped her. but now i have a few questions:
1) should i have been mad about being put on hold for almost 3 minutes?
2) should i have been ok with her going to the movie?
3) should i have not been mad at her leaving her cell phone, which i've never known her to leave her house without?
4) should i be mad that she accepted the necklace?
5) am i wrong for believing he still wants to be more than friends?
6) should i be mad that she can't see why i'm mad?
i know she has made some dumb decisions, but she's done nothing for me to think she's cheating on me. everynight she waits for my phone call, and her sister told me that i had her whipped, cause she'd go running for the phone and stuff like that. i don't think it's a matter of cheating, but i do think it's a matter of respect. and if she doesn't respect me enough to not do what she did last night, then why should i waste my time with her? i mean she really thinks she did nothing wrong 
i dunno which tiffany's necklace it was, but i do know the cheapest one is like $150. i know i wouldn't buy a chick i'm just friends with a necklace of that price, unless she really was my best friend and meant that much to me. this guy hasn't been in her life but for a year or 2, and they are far from best friends. he just had an obsession with her. and that's where i have the biggest problem. oh well, it's over between us for good. i will not take her back.
<-- thats all I have to say about that.
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