Alcoholism

[funkdaddysmack]

How do you talk to someone about their alcohol problems? The more I think about it, the more ways I can think of things getting worse and worse regardless of what I say or do. If he gets defensive it could get way worse by making him drink more. If we make him feel guilty he could do something rash/stupid to himself or someone else.

Regardless of the consequences I know I need to say SOMETHING, even though they may just get worse from here on out. It sucks that families are rarely ever normal, no matter what they seem like from the outside

To top it all off I am not good at confrontation, I'm never comfertable

[*PL*]

Tell him that if he continues to drink and destroy is life you won't talk to him ever again.

[Vash00es]

you cant compete friendship with a addiction

the addiction will always win

[*PL*]

you cant compete friendship with a addiction

the addiction will always win

That is correct.

[rage557]

Create a traumatic experiance and relate it to his drinking. That why when he drinks he will remember the experiance and not want to drink anymore. then again a traumatic experiance might make him want to drink more.

[Vash00es]

get a court order to make him go to rehab

[jnorion]

I don't think that creating difficult situations is the solution. If you're really good friends, the best thing is just to sit down and talk. No guarantees that it works, but at least it shouldn't hurt things... at worst he will ignore your warnings. Good luck!

[funkdaddysmack]

Friendship may not compete with addiction, but what if it's coming from your son (and the rest of the family)? I can only break the ice, it would be up to everyone else (who lives there or close) to try and have him maintain a healthier lifestyle after that.

It may not be as bad as it sounds, he doesn't get drunk and miss work, he doesn't beat my family, but he's starting to hurt them emotionally. So it's certainly a problem. It would be a lot easier if it was a friend and not my dad, I could just punch them in the mouth until they stopped acting like **** faces. It just doesn't seem right for me trying to be the adult in the situation when you're about ready to lecture your dad about his ****ty decisions in life. It's supposed to be the other way around

I have to do it for my Mom's and sisters' sake, minimally.

[jnorion]

Wow, that's tough. And you're right, it really shouldn't be you that has to be the adult, but if you can do it I'm sure it would mean a lot to your family.

[P-rotege]

Ask him why he drinks so much, and don't settle for "I don't know". What is it that he needs from the alchohol that he cannot get elsewhere? Tell him how you and your family feel, if has half a heart he will understand. Make him realize that he is hurting you and your family, and that you care too much about him to see him do this to himself. Ask him if he wants to quit, and offer your help. Spend time with him and make him realize that there are much better things than drinking. I think most people drink for a reason, usually to escape reality, to just fog everything up to the point when things don't matter much. You must know what your father likes to do, what he enjoys. You and your family must make a valid effort to restrict his drinking time, use that time instead to do other alternative and enjoyable activities. I know it sounds sort of like helping a child, but it is sometimes very similiar.

My sister has severe drug problems, which she picked up from my mom . The only way I could help her was by keeping her with me and not allowing her to have access to drugs. We did other things, like hikes, working on her and my car, etc. She ended up running away after fighting with my dad a lot, I don't live with them. She has once again returned to her addicted habits and her boyfriend is a f***ing piece of work. He got her into meth, ecstacy, coke, all kinds of horrible things. She tried re-hab but she just doesn't have the will-power....

At least give it a try, if nothing else just make sure he is aware of his habit, you'd be surprised how many people don't even realize their own addictions. All I got for you man, good luck...

[funkdaddysmack]

Thanks for the kind words, fellas. P-rotege, you hit the nail on the head, that's exactly what I was going to say. I think coming from me it would be the most powerful (out of my mom and two sisters), mostly because don't talk about feelings or anything like that. I'll let you know how it goes, I plan on calling him after work tonight.

[P-rotege]

Good luck again, and I hope all goes well for you and him. He has as much to benefit in this situation as you and your family.

[Enigmaz Powa]

wow, deep. **appreciates the lil shyt just 'that' much more**

Funk- A picture speaks a million words. picture + lecture = powerful tool.
Its best that some people 'see' how they act during certain scenarios. Remeber, while intoxicated u're 'out thea'.

P-rotege.

Why not kick the boyfriends ass or some how force a break-up?

I suggest going the Amish route. They go cold turkey when/if a child/man comes back from his/her rumspringa.

[MazKid]

I guess the only way to do it is to talk it over...though if you could create a taste-aversion it would work better, like if you were able to get a laxitive or something to make him nausiated after drinking he'd most likely stop.

[Vash00es]

I guess the only way to do it is to talk it over...though if you could create a taste-aversion it would work better, like if you were able to get a laxitive or something to make him nausiated after drinking he'd most likely stop.

Wtf